Ann's Happy Corner

[Eugene66]

So its time to chill. Today I feel like chilling.

[Eugene66]

Why did he call you a hipocrite?

Help them with what?

[Eugene66]

Hmm Don't get caught.

I mean have fun!!

[Eugene66]

There is no judgment here but I detect you feel you did it wrong?

There is no wrong we learn as we go along.

I don't know which is worse, a screamming mama or a hitting one. I always used to think of my parents as tyrants. Last night I remembered how I used to look at them as "the enemy" when I was naughty. 

[Eugene66]

You remind me of my mum when I grew up.

She used to give it to you with anything in her hands or even flat hands without warning. A wet dish cloth...........whatever. I realized at school when the teacher comes around to my desk to mark my book and she shakes her hand free of her sleeve I would duck and take cover. Today they call such an action post traumatic stress disorder. In those days they did not have a name for it.

I have this guru on parenting. Foster Kline I think his name is. He gives the most wonderful advice on parenting without punishing.

[Eugene66]

  Hahaha.

The first time it works because everyone is thinking "Is this the eye of the storm or the calm before the storm?"  and they tiptoe around you.

[Eugene66]

OK you may.

I know that transparency too. I call it allowance. Allow yourself to be anything. So when people throuw arrows "You are a..............watever they try to hurt you with" I simply agree. "You could be right." because in any way shape or form you are everything in this universe.

[Eugene66]

Allow yourself to judge.

Judge without judgment. Condemnation is the sin, not judgment. So judge ahead and enjoy Knock yourself out.

Can you feel the freedom of this knowing? Think it through and when you feel lighter you have realized in depth what I am saying.

So John is visibly ugly and sandy has a nasty sneer when she gossips......but its all good. Its all part of "what is" You love John and Sandy just the same, those are only some observations you have about them. What you do is your choice made in the space of "what is" you don't have to condemn them when you dont agree with them. You can listen and yet go off and do your own thing.

[Eugene66]

  Ohhhh the judge inside.

Judgmental. You start of thinking you are such a clever judge and as it evolves you end up mental. No wonder they call that condition judgemental

[Eugene66]

  So the voices stopped talking to you?    That must be very lonely. 

 

[Eugene66]

True


But then how do you know whern you are healed? Its an inner journey. In a sick world when you are healed you will tend to compare yourself with the rest and say "what is wrong with me?"

The only thing socially wrong with you is the fact that you are a healed person in a sick society.

Other than that you are perfect but it takes a tough stance because ther is no model to compare with.

For example I can say "I dont care about people killing little babies" From some perspective this is absolutely spiritual. But the soceity will crucify me for saying that. How will I know when I am healed?

The only way to really know is to stop thinking and rationalising and to just "know" when the time is right but they normally take people away to asylums when they just "know" without thinking.

[Eugene66]

" The trouble is Harry i have an addictive personality "

You can change that.

What I see is. " The trouble is Harry i will easily use an opportunity to run away from myself "

But also remember what you choose to say as fact about yourself becomes so. If you want to change it then for beginners change the way you define youself.

Affirm. "For as long as I can remember, I always maintained firm control over the choices I make."

[harryhoudini]

addiction is such a touchy subject, we are all addicted to some thing, myself its cigars , for some it can be something as simple as tv soaps, its a mine field of a subject, were discussion should be like walking over rice paper..........

hello ann just popped into your space to bid you a fond hello................

[Eugene66]

Oh Goody.

I will post something about addiction just now.

[Eugene66]

Maybe that in itself is a message?

Yesterday happened to be the day my mother decided to take her family out to a lunch at the ocean basket. After we returned at about 3Pm we continued watching Xfiles. I only checked my mail and everything this morning.

Now I wish I was here when you needed an ear but, oh well. We can't change the past. So I reside with my belief in a benevolent universe and say. "It happened the way it did. "  What can we do now?