I get fear connected to self identity. This is an illusion, let it all go, the good and the bad of it. You don't really need either. Wait for another opportunity to have only the desired part of this.
Ok that was just "feeling"
Technically the stomack is third Chakra. Personal identity or ego identity resides there. YOu feel you need to hold onto something in order to use for some event comming. Like gathering amunition for a comming enemy. People might blame you as a "bad mother" and you dont like it.
Trust yourself. You are already equipped to tell them off. You did the best you could and there is nothing else to be done about it.
Face critisism this way.
"Yes I am" (along with the rest of you)(Along with the majority of women on this planet.) (Now get lost)
"Does it matter....NOW?" what's done is done.
"I am what I am. Now get rubber f**ed and bounce away will you?"
Other peoples opinions are just that. It only defines them. It really does not define you.
This is a few wild thoughts here. I hope you can appreciate them.