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Title: 7 stages of emotional clearing
Post by: lauraa49 on June 13, 2009, 12:39:18 pm
 7 stages of emotional clearing  this article is by a gentleman named gracewatcher......

The 7 Stages of Emotional Clearing are given as a roadmap to help you navigate the stages of clearing that each person experiences in order to fully and completely clear negative pain associated with a conflict or other negative event from the body.


Trigger - A trigger occurs when someone violates a personal boundary or agreement.

Identifying the trigger - Once triggered, you react with anger or, if not anger, at least a sense that something is not right. *Note: Many people get stuck here because they have learned to immediately stuff their anger when it occurs. An example would be saying to yourself, "Oh, it's just not worth getting upset over.

Projection and Blaming - If you are angry, the next thing you do is blame someone for it. We call this "projecting" because you are putting the blame for your pain on someone else. *Note: Many people project and blame but they don't go past this point and express it to the person with whom they are upset.

Express and release - This is the step in which you vent your anger toward the accused. Expressing can take various forms depending on the intensity of the violation and trigger. Mild violations may require just speaking up about it. Stronger violations may require speaking up and a few choice cuss words to clear the pain and so on. *Note: Most people will stop short of this step because they believe they don't feel comfortable and/or they don't have the right to express their anger. In that case, passive/aggressive behavior will ensue because anger must have a release.

Look for and find mirror - Once the anger has been expressed, logic can return. Now and only now can you begin to look for how you have co-created the situation. Beginning with Steps 1-3 in the Formula for Compassion, you look for the lesson, contract and role that the other person is playing. *Tip: If you are not able to talk with your guides to get the information you need to find the mirror, try starting with Step 4 of the Formula. Ask yourself, "What fear is the other person expressing through their behavior?" Once you figure out what the fear is, you then ask, "What belief is triggering that fear?" By doing this, you are tracing your way back to the belief that is at the root of the behavior. Keep this rule in mind: Beliefs create fears which we then act out through our behavior.

Own the mirror - Recognize the aspect of you that the other person is reflecting or mirroring back to you. It is always a behavior motivated by fear. At that same moment of recognition, you will also be able to acknowledge that you have done the same thing that you have been judging that person for doing. If you truly see this, the anger and pain will quickly turn to empathy and sadness because you understand, first-hand, the fear that drives you both to that behavior. *Note: You may have already completed this step if you used the tip provided in Stage 5.

Clear the mirror - Now that you have found the fear that motivated the behavior, the next step is to ask yourself, "What belief triggered that behavior?" This is usually a core belief such as, "I must be perfect in order to have the right to exist." Once you find the belief, you now have the gift; the recognition of that belief and the opportunity to change it.

At this point there is a sudden shift in your body. The empathy and sadness shift to overwhelming appreciation and gratitude for the other person as all anger, pain, and blame are transmuted. In this moment you release the other person totally and completely. You then apologize and validate the other person's pain.

Last but not least: Thank

Your only thought now is how to thank the other person for the gift. You do this by thanking them with a heart full of appreciation and gratitude. They will feel this. Once completed, you have cleared the mirror. The conflict is over and peace, love and harmony is reestablished. But there is an even greater reward; each party feels a greater degree of trust in the relationship because they know that when conflicts arise, each party will stay to work through the conflict and not run.

LOVE.. what does the word really mean !

Title: Re: 7 stages of emotional clearing
Post by: Eugene66 on June 15, 2009, 04:25:56 am
Wonderful post Laura.

I am going to print this out and read it in steps.

Title: Re: 7 stages of emotional clearing
Post by: Medusa on June 15, 2009, 04:42:37 am
Hey very nice Laura

Have you tried this yourself ?

Or do you use another method lov ?


Title: Re: 7 stages of emotional clearing
Post by: Deveswar on June 15, 2009, 09:09:40 am
Quite nice post laura,

love, you deveswar

Title: Re: 7 stages of emotional clearing
Post by: Comet on June 15, 2009, 10:27:03 am
Awesome post Laura i will keep all that in mind thanks for sharing!  ;)

Title: Re: 7 stages of emotional clearing
Post by: Eugene66 on January 20, 2010, 02:27:07 am
I think EFT is an excellent Shortcut to deal with baggage like this.

Title: Re: 7 stages of emotional clearing
Post by: Eugene66 on January 20, 2010, 05:02:20 am
Ok let me remind you gently.................. :)

I do eft intermittently now. I only do it when something ticks me off. My sister now thinks its an anger management thing  ;D She's beyond hope. One cannot learn anything when one THINKS they know and closes their minds off.

Hmmm I can tap on that too. Damm sister. >:D

Title: Re: 7 stages of emotional clearing
Post by: Eugene66 on February 03, 2010, 04:15:19 am
How are you now Ann?